I hung out with David on Thursday, which was the first time I'd seen him in almost three weeks. We only hang out once, maybe twice a week, and I was in Germany for five days after our last meeting. Plus, he did try to see me the day I returned from Germany, which would've cut the three weeks in half, but I was too tired.
Anyway, I was rather disappointed with the way things transpired on Thursday. I felt like he really didn't want to talk to me. I was trying to talk to him about his job, because the last time I saw him, he was upset about a feud with a coworker. So I tried to talk to him about it at least three or four times, and each time, he gave me some kind of yeah-it's-fine answer and tried to kiss me.
Finally, after the fourth time that I tried to ask, he said, "I really don't want to talk about work."
Which meant that he didn't want to talk about anything. He just wanted to kiss me, and I found that insulting. (Maybe I'm looking to be insulted, though. We hadn't seen each other in three weeks, and he missed kissing me. I missed talking to him. That doesn't make him flawed, just different.)
[Confidential aside to Leon: I know what you're thinking, and that is sort of on hold for about six weeks, pending some shit getting sorted out. Email or Skype me for details.]
Anyway, normally the day after David and I have a date or a meeting or whatever you want to call it, I email him to say that I had a nice time or to clarify things that I think I didn't state well or to ask him questions that popped up after the fact. But I didn't do that on Friday, so, Saturday morning, I woke up to this:
I have been thinking all day about how to respond to that, and I am writing this entry now because I have stopped in the middle of writing my response to ponder it some more.
Am I reading way too far into that or does that not sound like a giant blow off? It's like saying, "I know we haven't seen each other very much lately but I have other girlfriends and I have to make sure I devote some time to them too."
Fuckin' hell.
In his mind, he's probably just saying, "Good to see you after so long. I'm super busy but making time for you when I can." Possibly the same mentality that thought that after not seeing him for so long, I'd rather kiss him than talk to him. Little does he know.
Oh, and I'm posting a picture of him because I care so much about you, my dear readers. I would've sooner, but I've not taken a picture of him and posting one requires me to gank one from his Facebook, which feels very stalkerish. But, whatever. I stalk for you, LiveJournal friends. It's all for you.

And since you haven't seen me in several months, this is from my recent trip to Germany. But, really, you can always find pictures of me on Facebook and Flickr:

Anyway, I was rather disappointed with the way things transpired on Thursday. I felt like he really didn't want to talk to me. I was trying to talk to him about his job, because the last time I saw him, he was upset about a feud with a coworker. So I tried to talk to him about it at least three or four times, and each time, he gave me some kind of yeah-it's-fine answer and tried to kiss me.
Finally, after the fourth time that I tried to ask, he said, "I really don't want to talk about work."
Which meant that he didn't want to talk about anything. He just wanted to kiss me, and I found that insulting. (Maybe I'm looking to be insulted, though. We hadn't seen each other in three weeks, and he missed kissing me. I missed talking to him. That doesn't make him flawed, just different.)
[Confidential aside to Leon: I know what you're thinking, and that is sort of on hold for about six weeks, pending some shit getting sorted out. Email or Skype me for details.]
Anyway, normally the day after David and I have a date or a meeting or whatever you want to call it, I email him to say that I had a nice time or to clarify things that I think I didn't state well or to ask him questions that popped up after the fact. But I didn't do that on Friday, so, Saturday morning, I woke up to this:
Hi Kate,
Thanks for coming on Thursday, it was nice to see you after quite a long time.
I would like to see you more often, but like you said, there are other people in the picture, and I try to give time to everyone when I can. I am meeting more and more people in what are still my first few months in Prague.
And what happened to the post meeting long email?? ;))
Have a great week end.
David.
I have been thinking all day about how to respond to that, and I am writing this entry now because I have stopped in the middle of writing my response to ponder it some more.
Am I reading way too far into that or does that not sound like a giant blow off? It's like saying, "I know we haven't seen each other very much lately but I have other girlfriends and I have to make sure I devote some time to them too."
Fuckin' hell.
In his mind, he's probably just saying, "Good to see you after so long. I'm super busy but making time for you when I can." Possibly the same mentality that thought that after not seeing him for so long, I'd rather kiss him than talk to him. Little does he know.
Oh, and I'm posting a picture of him because I care so much about you, my dear readers. I would've sooner, but I've not taken a picture of him and posting one requires me to gank one from his Facebook, which feels very stalkerish. But, whatever. I stalk for you, LiveJournal friends. It's all for you.

And since you haven't seen me in several months, this is from my recent trip to Germany. But, really, you can always find pictures of me on Facebook and Flickr:


Comments
I wouldn't bother replying unless you're OK with that and nothing more.
And make no mistake: It's not a relationship. He's just having fun.
I don't want to share him and his not wanting to have a conversation was like salt in my wounds. It's like I'm not even worth talking to anymore. He's doing the absolute bare minimum of upkeep so that he gets what he wants.
And the only reason he sent that message today was because he was doing his bare minimum. My not sending him an email was a red flag that something was out of the ordinary. So he's just making sure that everything is cool between us so that things will continue as they have been...just kissing, no talking. Fan-fucking-tastic.
it sounds rather blow off-y to me (but i am captain of the negative so add salt grains as necessary).
still - nice to see you around lately.
What it really comes down to, in my mind, is that you deserve better. You should have someone who wants to spend time with you and is interested in talking instead of just using you.
And you look fabulous dear!
*hugs*
*hugs*
From reading, I think you keep bringing a template to bear on these European and Mediterranean guys that they really don't fit into. You are a very pretty, smart, intense and deeply sweet young woman, of course they are going to want to be with you, to converse with and to kiss you, but I don't think any of these guys have been suitable as proper boyfriends. But then again, does one go to Prague to seek a proper courtship? It's like the anti-Midwest.